As we grow from childhood to adolescence we become aware of not only the environment around us but also self aware of our existence. Our personalities begin to take shape and our physiology becomes more defined. We become susceptible to the influences and suggestions of our peers. I can remember, and I can promise a majority of people reading this have been told “have more confidence.” We hear it all the time “just be confidence”, but what does that even mean? Does it mean to be macho? Does it mean to live without fear? Must you convert from introversive personality to extroversion? NO! CONFIDENCE is KNOWING that you are capable of doing something.
CONFIDENCE is NOT the same as competence. Confidence is also NOT the same as arrogance. Often times these words get confused or falsely attributed because we grew up not knowing or understanding what the word CONFIDENCE means. CONFIDENCE is knowing you CAN attempt something and if failure happens, it is not a fault on ones character. Confident people KNOW failure is inevitable at some point but they do NOT let that stop them. If they fail, they will simply pick themselves up and try a different approach.
Confidence is NOT competence. Competence is your ability to complete a task effectively and efficiently. Confident people don’t try to pretend they know all or do all, arrogant and cocky people, however cocky and arrogant people do! Confident people have no need to masquerade behind a false identity. Confidence also correlates with self esteem. While confidence is not inherent to competence – they can build upon each other which boosts self esteem.